So I want to ask you guys a question. Do you believe that manogamy is truly realistic. In a society where sex is used for everthing, from music to advertising, its always right in our face. How many actually look the other way? Which makes me wonder is Manogamy Realistic? Can you have a relationship with just one person? Is that by force or are you doing it willingly? If not does that cause resentment towards the person you are with? I ran into a couple recently who have a very unique relationship. There are three people in the relationship. Now they are faithful to each other but they live as a threesome relationship. They say this provides a lack of the wandering eye and lessens the boredom factor. So I ask myself, are they on to something? The triangle has three sides and is considered one of the most pleasing shapes to the human mind. Maybe it has the same signaficance in the bedroom? Just Asking!
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My answer is a resounding NO!!! I can definitely understand trying to spice things up...but in every relationship there is always person who will be hurt by this...no one who is truly in love with their significant other will be okay with "sharing" that person with another..call me old fashioned but it would hurt my heart to know my lover wanted to share his body with someone else and still be in a relationship with me...
So I guess managomy is not not a problem for you. How do yu handle the temptation?
lol.... It can sometimes work but every pro has a con. Everybody has a wondering eye from straight to gay or whatever. Truth is people have to be honest with them self and ask them self as well there partner ( do you see us 2 or more years from now ??? which a gay relationship only last may say 3 to 5 months which sucks but relationship should only cum up when you've been with a person 2 yrs or more then you asked them that question are you ready to put the toys away...
Good point anonymous. I think it that people do have to be honest with themselves and ask if they can handle this kind of relationship. But I also think people shouls ask themselves the same question when the relationship is one on one. So many don't and they jump head first and land on their ass:)
Just being naive..I guess...but its funny...everyone declares that manogamy is impossible until they find someone they feel is exactly the "right fit". But yes...in today's gay society where all types of d*** and a** is bein thrown at you, I guess it is unrealistic..but if its truly the right person and both people have an equal passion for each other...then I don't think it is...and to anonymous..do you really feel relationship should only be approaced after 2 whole years?
I could not have said it better myself!
Speaking for myself; I am a one on one man. I do not want what someone else has. I appreciate the gifts that are bestowed upon me (including trust). I can look and not touch, just as I window shop Coach or Gucci the price you pay is too high so I just look and walk on by.
If it is in your face and it is not in your best interest walk away. I do not go where I know I may not be able to contain myself. No I cannot go to lunch, shopping or for a drink with someone who I know is interested in me. I would not set myself up for failure in other personal ventures why would I in my relationship.
If monogamy is not possible than neither is self control and I do not believe that for a minute!
That is a really good point. I agree in relationships, sometimes you can avoid putting yourself in certain situations that make it even harder to have self control.
I say weeks, months, or years that will give you the time to see if you can really put up with his or her flaws an all ect... For me I give people chances off n on but once they show me a side I don't like I'll ask them can that be fix or is it going to continue because it affects me or whatever if that issuse hurts or bothers you the person should change it so he or she won't loose out on you, so weeks,and months to me are a dating faze... Thats just me testing the waters of a persons life n living etc... so I won't get hurt nor mean I sum what know what to expect.. U feel me dc...
Very well put Jesse...in essence I feel its caring enough about the person you are seeing, not to put yourself in a place where you could do something you regret. Doing the opposite would be like knowing that you should not have pancakes, and then going to IHOP..
monogamy is a state of mind and most people can do it if they want to and if you find yourself not being able to do it's because you want sex with more than one person more than you want a realtionship.... however i feel that monogamy is unnatural.... monogamy is a forced state of mind but if you cant control what you're doing then you're saying you have no control over your life or your body...
you can look but why do you have to touch? because it's natural to crave variety.....how can you combat the brain washing that is placed on men since they were children ....boys are taught to get as much as you can before you get married and even after you are married its a man's right to dip off every now & then to keep his sanity...even gay men have been a victims of this brainwashing as young men.....
monogamy is unnatural but it's possible if you are wiling to force yourself to be with one person....even if you dont cheat but you think about it its all the same to me!! and most are gonna think about it especially if they are unhappy at home mentally or sexually....
the three way relationship can be just as disasterous as a one on one....you can get use to eating chocolate and vannila ice cream each and everyday and be bored if you get tired of the same ice cream or you can look for strawberry or new york cherry......but if you dont and you think about it cus it natural to wander mentally it's all the same....
nothing last forever not even your exclusive attraction to your mate....but you can always give it a try....lol
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